A great username is a differentiator – a unique brand name – something that completely sets you apart from every other person on a dating site.And when your ideal partner is scrolling through hundreds of names – Sally102, Jen NYC1, Lawyer Gal – a great username can be the very reason that someone contacts you. And you become convinced that usernames don’t matter. In my opinion, a username should be a pun or a play on words. Wine Not – for the wine aficionado Lady Go Go – for the world traveler Bach To Bach – for the classical music enthusiast Tender Legal – for the soft-hearted lawyer See the common thread?On my fourth or fifth date arranged through OKCupid I met my current boyfriend, who happens to be the most communicative, fun, and kind person I’ve met, online or off.I’ll spare you the gush-fest; suffice it to say we’re an awesome match.Why do I think that usernames make a difference, when everyone knows that it’s all about the profile and photo?Because when you’re dating online, which is an extremely competitive medium, you need every advantage you can get.I’m quite sure our readers are not going to copy them for their own personal usage. The most memorable (in a good way) were a Blond Moment, Polyglotapus, and Toe_Tap_N. And while those micro-decisions seem unimportant, they add up and do matter, because you’re only as good as the profile you craft.
Your objective is to find a decent enough, yet slightly unusual username which stands out from all the other names. Usually, usernames don't have any spaces between the words, and hence, the use of capital letters is required in order to separate it.
I’ve swiped, I’ve messaged, I’ve boldly gone where no right-thinking relationship-seeker has gone before (to see a vampire movie on a first date), all in the name of finding love, or at least a cool guy to hang out with.
To this end I’ve been more successful, or perhaps luckier, than my friends.
I don’t attribute this to an alignment of stars, to the mercy of the web gods and goddesses, or even to OKC’s algorithm, which supposedly uses questions such as “What’s worse, book burning or flag burning? Instead, I chalk up my positive online dating experiences -- which, with the exception of a brazen date who rudely shushed fellow theatergoers (referred to amongst my friends henceforth as “the shusher”), has been without horror stories -- to my careful evaluation of a potential match’s username before arranging a date.
Puns and hyper-masculine references were mostly no-gos.